Staring blankly at my own Facebook

I've done pretty well in resisting Facebook. It's only recently that I've been drawn into its sticky web. I have two accounts, one for people I know in real life and another for my radio show stuff. There's a very blurred line that sepearates the two. I'm not sure how long I'm going to keep either of them going. I don't think it's a website that's good for me.

My life's pretty medicore in terms of socialising and travel. In fact I do very little that could be described as 'cool'. I watch daytime telly, play on my 'puter, read a lot of books and every Thursday I go to a pub quiz. That's it. All my life I've had a weird nagging suspicion that I wasn't normal in this respect and that everyone else is having an amazing time, all the time. Facebook seems to give me photographic proof that this suspicion is not just typical insecure paranoia but is in fact true. Judging by a flick through Facebook it seems most of the people I know spend all their time at parties or on holiday doing amazing things.

I'm not much of a pictures person. Amature photographs generally depress me. They make the world look so ordinary. Furthermore I'm of the opinion that you can't go right with a picture of yourself. It's either going to look good and therefore depress you with the passage of time or it'll look bad and depress you in the here and now. Despite this I got drawn into looking at people's pictures this morning. I had a bit of time to kill in the office. I had no idea what an overall downer the experience would be.

It left me feeling boring, ordinary and nosy. Is that the sort of thing other people feel when they log onto Facebook? Am I doing something wrong? I'm puzzled by the appeal of it. Someone once told me it was "all about the pictures". Maybe that's why I'm just not really "getting it".

I've tried commenting on things as well. I like that a bit more but the site seems to lack the depth of twitter. Most of it seems to be incredibly inconsequential and inane. Pages and pages of "polite chatter". The sort of conversations I loathe in real life.

I must be doing something wrong.

Why do people like that website?


Joey B said…
I only log into Facebook every once in a while. Some people waste way too much time on it. I spent the first 45+ years of my life before Facebook was invented, so had lots of adventures.
Livvy said…
Facebook is one of those awful, plaguing things that becomes more of a necessity the more you use it... Kind of like an addiction. I've always said how much I hate it in comparison to twitter, but over the summer I've been spending far too much time using it for procrastinating / timewasting purposes and gotten in the habit of checking it regularly. I tried to convince myself it was only useful for things such as invites to events and so on, but kept finding myself flicking through inane photos of nights out of people who were "mutual friends" and I actually barely knew or didn't know at all. In fact, I was so disgusted by this, that as soon as the summer holiday finished I got my family to change my password, so that I can't access it without asking someone else to log me on. It feels so liberating... Good riddance!
Anonymous said…
I know exactly what you mean.I'm the same, I log on to Facebook & see other people's photos of nights out, holidays etc, & sometimes you can't help but feel as though your life is not quite as exciting as some people's!
But it can definitely be addictive. I have felt lately that maybe I am on there far too much. Sometimes it can be depressing, I understand that. Facebook has put me back in touch with some old school friends, so I'm pleased about that.
Don't delete your account Nick, why should you?!
I really enjoy your shows on LBC & I've enjoyed listening this week..

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